Deep within every human being is the desire to soar above the battles of life. In other words, each one of us wants to live a victorious life regardless of the challenges we face. Difficult seasons be they long or short can be so intense that you want to run away or avoid the pain as much as you possibly can. This can give way to denial or delusions that do not serve you well in the long run.
Ironically, difficult seasons provide the best opportunities to strengthen your wings in readiness for soaring. You’re probably wondering what I’m on about and whether I have any idea how dire your situation is. You probably aren’t thinking beyond surviving the next hour or two.
The truth is, I don’t know what it’s like to walk in your shoes. I do however know that, there is still a very small part of your heart that is reserved for soaring in order to fulfil some long-buried dreams.
You might not have any control over what life throws at you but you get to choose how you go through the journey. This is a not-to-be-missed opportunity of a lifetime if only you can embrace hope.
I have a few tips on how you can strengthen your wings right where you are:
1. Embrace the struggles and the pain
The daily grind of challenges often come with struggles and pain that you want to do your best to avoid or minimise. In terms of physical pain, there might be remedies or strategies that you have to take on board which goes against the grain as far as you are concerned. Rather than protesting and chaffing at the hands that you have been dealt; do what is needful so that you can re-build your stamina as much as is feasible within your situation.
An example of this might be having to spend weeks or months resting when previously you are used to being constantly active. It is interesting that people who are super-productive often make the worst patients.
With respect to emotional and psychological pain; it is easier to put on a mask, pretending that things are progressing as they should. If you are like most, the outpouring of emotion and distress feels very uncomfortable. Male or female, young or old, suppressing emotional pain only leads to more problems that will eventually trip you up when you least expect it. Don’t buy into the lie that the length of your recovery must follow a textbook pattern and time frame. Be honest with yourself and those around you.
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2. Maintain a pleasant and grateful attitude
It can be challenging to maintain a good disposition during trials. Have you ever felt that while everyone else is having a good time, a bomb has detonated in your life and you are grappling with the unfairness of it all. There is no doubt that in life it doesn’t just rain, it pours. As much as possible though, it is important not to harbour jealousy, envy, resentment or bitterness against others. Even in case of those who have wronged or violated you in the worst ways imaginable, at some point, you will have to lance the boil. Otherwise, the negative feelings within you become a poison that spreads toxicity around you.
This is not something that can be achieved speedily or by magic. You have to be intentional about it. You might find it useful to have truth-tellers who love you around to be like your mirror from time to time.
3. Encourage or help someone else
No matter what has happened to you or what you’re currently going through; you can help or encourage someone else. You probably wonder whether this tip has any basis as you view yourself needing help and support at present. Don’t belittle the lessons of your tough seasons be they present or in the past. On reflection, there are things that you might be able to teach someone or ways that you can encourage because of where you have been.
Helping or encouraging others does not have to be complicated. It can be anything from holding the hand of another to sharing strengthening experiences. When you decide to serve others during your own trials; it has the effect of temporarily shifting your gaze from your own troubles. That in turn gives you a breather in the middle of your own journey – strength for tomorrow.
Note of caution: I am not suggesting that you neglect looking after yourself or take on board more than what you know you can handle. You know what your personal limits are. You also need to be wise regarding the kind of person you choose to have around you.
Don’t wait around while life is passing you by.
Be inspired to soar.