Coming to the end of the second week of the year, this is an opportune time to ensure that you are on the right track that is, living the life you are meant to live.
ARE YOU RUNNING YOUR OWN RACE?
This is one of those questions most people answer with an unequivocal yes without missing a beat. So you’re comfortable, have all the trappings of success(as shown by your social media profile) and you have a good idea of what you desire in life.
Behind closed doors and in the recesses of your mind, do the above statements hold true? The reality is that many aren’t sure as they have subconsciously bought into another person’s definition of success and used that as their yardstick for self-assessment. If there is any niggling doubt in your mind about whether you’re pursuing the right goals or you’re discontent, this post is for you.
Here are 5 indicators that you are running your own race. If you don’t have these in place, it is still early enough in the year to adjust and refocus so that you end 2018 fulfilled in every way.
1. Be true to yourself
Knowing who you are; what you are about and your reason for being are so foundational to existence yet many adults avoid the in-depth exploration of the same. If your identity is wrapped around a role, function or position; those are subject to change. What happens when they are gone? This accounts for why there is a high risk of stress amongst those who have faced or are facing redundancy. The essence of who you are should be determined by a healthy sense of self-worth that is not tied to anything that is changeable. Your talents are an inherent part of you, that you were born with even though job roles might have given you the opportunity to hone them. With a healthy self-worth in place, you are then clear about what you stand for regardless of the situation in which you find yourself. This invariably leads to finding and getting a strong sense of purpose.
Purpose – what some refer to as your “why”, informs your destination. It is foolhardy to start a race without a clear sense of where your finish line is. “Winging it” as some people are prone to do is a recipe for frustration and dissatisfaction. Take a good look at those goals that you are currently pursuing and ensure that you are being true to yourself. Remove all masks and pretence – that is the best start to running your own race.
2. Be wise to distractions
We live in an age where distractions aren’t difficult to find. They are often disguised as useful tools, well-intentioned pursuits that are touted as being crucial to success. The technology that has made the world smaller, expedited the ways we interact with each other socially and in business have also become the bane of human existence in other ways.
According to IPA TouchPoints 2017 data:
“In the UK, adults spend on average 4hrs 35 minutes on TV/video, 2hrs 53 minutes on social media and 2hrs 15 minutes on the internet DAILY”.
How much of that time is productively used; only you as an individual can tell. The above figure is just the tip of the iceberg with respect to activities that consume people’s time.
“Your life is too important to give it to distractions”. Robin Sharma
A good grasp of your personal distractions is essential to that you can devise ways to remove them in order to achieve your goals. What you don’t acknowledge, you cannot confront and adequately address. To be a success in any area of life, you have to be honest with yourself about those activities that prevent you from living a meaningful life.
3. Be at peace with non-conformity
Over the course of life’s journey, it is impossible not to want to emulate success or good practices when you see them. The reality is that in every human endeavour, there are those who have gone ahead of you and achieved success in your field. There is no use reinventing the wheel. Wisdom demands that you learn the lessons you need from mentors so that you can avoid many of the pitfalls they had. However, learning from others is one thing; becoming a carbon copy of someone else is a disservice to yourself and humanity. There are unique gifts, talents and styles that are yours to own. Display those with excellence and diligence – that will set you on the path for success in your own lane. Just because your product is not as glossy as another doesn’t mean is isn’t as valuable – as long as you have put in the requisite work. Embrace and learn to love your own quirkiness.
4. Be focused on your own lane
The temptation to look at others people’s lanes can appear too great to resist especially when things aren’t going to plan or you have come to a standstill. Even though someone else’s track might appear to be smooth while yours is full of potholes and bumps; don’t let that get you down. You don’t know what they have overcome to get to where they are and you also don’t know what they have to face ahead. Run with what you’ve got. Learn, improve, ask for help when you need to and collaborate with positive people who will advance you. Make laser focus a close ally so that you reach your desired destination.
5. Be committed to staying the course
The aim of any race is to reach a destination. Your life is no different. Having all the aforementioned points in the bag will be pointless if you aren’t consistent and committed to crossing the finish line. From the time you make the decision to pursue a goal or dream for your life; there will be myriads of events or circumstances that will push you towards giving up as things get tough. In order to succeed, you have to push back negative thoughts or excuses with the determination to honour the commitment you made to yourself.
Why bother you might ask?
I will answer you with another question.
What will it cost you and your loved ones if you fail to run your own race this year?
I dare say that the world is waiting on you to live a life of impact by using your gifts.
In the COMMENTS, let me know which of the 5 indicators you will put in place to have a successful 2018.
Until the next time, be inspired to soar.